Ladylike :: On Accepting Compliments

I read this post recently, and it really got me thinking. It wasn't long ago that I was an insecure teenager (well, maybe it was a decade ago, but it still feels like yesterday). I was one of those girls who responded to a compliment with a complaint, usually about my hair or about how fat I felt that day. I guess it's just part of being a woman, or maybe just a young woman. I like to think that I've grown out of that tendency, but I guess it's not always true?
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In reality, it's so easy to just say thank you. But how often do we really do it? I try, I really do, but there are still so many things about myself that I am self-conscious about. Sometimes the insecurities just outshine any semblance of confidence that I may have, which is absolutely terrible. It doesn't matter if someone compliments my hair; it doesn't necessarily change how I feel about my nose. Or my skin. Or my [insert body part here]. 

There's something so graceful about just accepting a compliment, no strings attached, don't you think? I do find myself saying thank you when someone pays me a compliment these days, and rarely do I comment in a negative way about myself. I know it's an unattractive response to the person paying me the compliment, so why can't I just accept it on my own, without it bringing me down even more than I already am? I may not always voice my insecurities out loud, but they are definitely there, screaming at me inside my head. 

I suppose accepting compliments with a polite thank you is enough, for now. But someday I hope that we all just love ourselves enough to truly believe it when someone says something kind to us. Because I know that it's true for you, so it should be true for me too.


Joelle Duff said...

What a great reminder! I don't often respond to compliments with complaints about myself, but I do tend to try to explain away compliments to downplay them. I will definitely keep this post in mind. :)

Joelle Duff said...

YES. i really hate when i compliment someone and they automatically say something negative about themselves (i know i have done it a few times too!) but WHY!? let's just say thanks :) :) xo jillian - cornflake dreams

Joelle Duff said...

I think I need to practice this, especially with my boyfriend. I'm always finding something wrong. It's a really good reminder that we need to love ourselves :)

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Joelle Duff said...

I caught myself doing this the other day!! My sister told me I looked so cute and skinny and I had been feeling completely ugly and fat and I immediately responded "No.. i'm so fat right now." - instead of just saying thank you. this is a great post!

Joelle Duff said...

Yes to everything you said!