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There's always been this kind of battle in my mind.
If you know me in real life, you know that I don't have a clean mouth. They are just words, right? It's more the meaning behind the word that's important. I always say that when I have kids, I would much rather them come home from school dropping the f-bomb than calling something gay. It's kind of a no-brainer in my mind.
That being said, I try to be a classy lady. Obviously I don't always succeed (and being classy really is subjective), but at least I try. I mind my manners, always say please and thank you, and hold the door open for people. I love entertaining in my home, and try to send thank you notes (when I remember). But does my potty-mouth negate all of these ladylike qualities?
I tend to think not. I don't curse much on this blog, though I have been known to show my true colors on Twitter. I stay far, far away from words that may offend someone in a very legitimate and raw way, since I really don't believe that shit can hurt someone's feelings in the same way that calling something retarded would.
For me, cursing is a way that I communicate my emphasis on something, whether it be because of anger or excitement or stress. It's not me being crude on purpose; it's just a part of who I am. And I tend to think that the lack of cursing in the blogging community is just another way that bloggers try to sanitize their lives (i.e. try to make them seem as perfect as possible). I don't like that.
What are your thoughts on cursing? Do you think it's possible to be ladylike (we can chat about the sexist sentiments in that word another time) while still swearing? And do you agree that too often we are afraid to use our true language online because we want to seem perfect and better than the rest?